When Faced with a Parent with Alzheimer’s

What is  the definition of Alzheimer’s,, Also called: senile dementia

Very common
More than 3 million US cases per year
Can’t be cured, but treatment may help
Requires a medical diagnosis
Lab tests or imaging not required
Chronic: can last for years or be lifelong
Brain cell connections and the cells themselves degenerate and die, eventually destroying memory and other important mental functions.
Memory loss and confusion are the main symptoms.
No cure exists, but medications and management strategies may temporarily improve symptoms.

I have heard many of my friends complain about their parent or grandparent is acting like they do not remember things and it is getting on their nerves.


The truth in the matter is they may not remember things and your being rude towards them is not going to help your loved one feel any better on what is happening to them.

Now is the time to start having them write down their history and the family history you will be amazed of the knowledge and education they have stored in their minds and it would be  a shame to lose it all to this disease.
Take pictures with family and friends daily or weekly in those pictures you will see the changes your loved one is facing… LOVE THEM, TAKE the TIME to visit with THEM.
We are not faced with what they are, the scary fact they will not remember their life or you may not be in a few month it may take years but it tears at them and each day a piece of them is lost, do not let that happen, LET THEM LIVE NOW, it does get tough and you will at times want to lose your temper and yell at them, it is OK to feel that way, however now you will become the parent and they will become the child.
You will need an outlet to vent, it will begin to takes it toll on you, however just remember this is happening to all of the family and it scares everyone that is involved.
Depending on far the disease has progressed only a Doctor can  diagnosed that, not myself nor anyone else who has not gone to medical school and passed the state medical boards. I have experienced it myself along with my children and they were wonderful with taking care of our loved one.
I learned things I am about to list  from hit and miss with my loved one.
1) Talk to them not at them
2) Keep a calm voice (as much as possible)
3) Do not keep saying “Yes you do know” or Stop acting like you do not know”
4) Keep your loved one active as much as possible, let them help with chores or babysitting ( until they cannot)
5) Do not strip them of their right to think for themselves, as long as it is not putting your loved one or any one around them in danger.
6) History, talk to  your loved one about their past and their childhood, either record it or write it down, the knowledge and wealth of information they have in their minds. Get ready for things you never knew about your loved one and share it with your family and children. this is a keepsake that can be passed down for generations.
There are support groups and daycare for your loved ones if you want to look into them, being out and about is good for everyone involved.
 The Alzheimer’s Foundation Website:
http://www.alzfdn.org
National Institute of Aging
https://www.nia.nih.gov/alzheimers/faq/how-can-i-find-information-about-local-support-groups-people-alzheimers-disease-and
Just live and love and learn, this is one disease that scares the hell out of everyone, even if they try to be tough and act like they are OK with it..

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